You Lost Me by David Kinnaman

“Disciples cannot be mass-produced. Disciples are handmade, one relationship at a time.”

I remember the first church I ever went to. Door to door evangelism was the name of the game. Every week when I walked into Sunday school, I was greeted with a welcome card. On the card I was asked how often did I pray that week, how often I read my Bible, how much was I giving to the church that week, which services I attended (there was an option for every single day, multiple options for Saturday and Sunday), and how many doors I knocked on that week.

I was ten years old.

Why was I asked how many doors I was visiting a week? Did the church really think suburban fourth graders were evangelizing up and down the street? I was barely brave enough to go trick-or-treating.

Getting people to church was the goal. The most important thing was to get butts in the pews – or to be more polite, more behinds in the pews.

Clearly that church was not interested in relationships. They were more interested in numbers and appearances. It took me a few years of maturing to realize that this church was a problem and I finally left it for a much-better Christ-centered people-focused church. However, after a few more years of maturing I realized the first church is more the rule than the exception.

“Most young Christians are struggling less with their faith in Christ than with their experience of church.”

You Lost Me is David Kinnaman’s second book exploring the non-Christian movement among today’s younger population (and that’s non-Christian, not anti-Christian, those terms are not synonymous). While unChristian explored the non-Christian’s perspective on Christianity, You Lost Me examines the religious dropout path among young Christians.

As a college administrator, I am not surprised by Kinnaman’s findings. A person’s formative years (18-29 years old) usually involves an intense time of questioning. Sometimes its outright rebellion, other times its religious exploration, but it is definitely a time where one on doubts the religious and moral beliefs they grew up with.

This is another great book about the reality of Christianity in our country. For better or for worse, American culture is no longer defined by unwritten Christian values. Anyone who works with young students would find some great insight in this book.