Sex and the Soul by Donna Freitas

“To create a community where faith matters not just in theory but in reality, faith has to be a public value, not just a private one.”

I was educated in a Christian environment. In high school, sex was discussed in only two settings: health class and conversations on purity or abstinence. I think at first this sounds awful. It would seem sex is only seen as biological process or a sinful act, but that’s not how I was educated. In fact, as I have grown older, I have noticed that outside the Christian environment, sex is only discussed in health class. I believe I had better conversations about sex as a young person in a Christian school than my peers.

Were there negative concepts about sex? Yes. Were some issues hidden? Yep. But I am proud of the educated I was provided: I was given a proper understanding of how my identity and sex are intertwined.

Sex and the Soul by Donna Freitas is about the connection between sexuality and our spirituality. In this work, she brings in her research but most importantly, she brings conversations she has had with numerous college students. She shares stories from students public, private, Catholic, and evangelical schools. The stories are many and so are the experiences but their is one common theme: students do not have a clue how to navigate their sexuality.

Sexually active students have trouble finding the deep relationships and romance they desire. Sexually abstinent students have trouble understanding their role as a sexual being. Almost all don’t know where to go for help.

I really enjoyed this book and am thankful for the information. I think the practical applications listed by Freitas are unreasonable and impractical. For example, I don’t think asking your campus tour guide about sex and dating on campus will get you the answers you desire, and it may creep out everyone else in your tour group.