Authentic Happiness by Martin Seligman

I don’t consider myself a pessimist, but I am definitely not an optimist. So what does that make me? Probably makes me a pessimist in denial.

During my teenage years I had a mild anger streak. Luckily with a little self-discipline I was able to overcome that. During college, I had a minor episode with depression. Luckily with friendly support and modern medicine, I was able to overcome that. In the last five years or so, I have experienced some extremely difficult moments that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. I think it is a miracle that I was able bounce back from these difficult times. I can attribute my resilience to a myriad of things: great wife, religion, self-awareness, etc. It was a combination of all these things.

Over the years, I have read a lot about positive psychology. At first it sounded like cheap psychology but as I dug deeper into I started to see its true value. Instead of focusing on the problems and fixing them, positive psychology focuses on baseline and building on top of it. It was nice to see myself as a muscle to strengthen and not a problem to be solved.

If you want clear picture of positive psychology, how it works, how you can use it, then this book will guide you through it perfectly. While reading the book I immediately started rethinking how I approach my wife and my children. It has helped me be a better husband and father. I already bought another book by Seligman that specifically addresses raising children with positive psychology.